Mum's heartbreaking message to the woman who tried to shame her for using disabled parking space

Hannah says her family are regularly challenged for parking is disabled spaces - but it only happens in Bishop's Stortford
The mum of a disabled child has penned a heartbreaking open letter to a stranger who challenged her for parking in a blue badge space while out shopping.
Hannah Blatch was returning to her car with her two children — two-year-old son Max and four-year-old Lily, who has a range of complex conditions including autism — when they were suddenly approached by the woman.
“We had just come back from town and I was loading up Lily’s pushchair into the car when I noticed a woman at the ticket machine watching me,” she explained.
“I didn’t think much of it at first but as she walked passed she said to her husband ‘well she’s clearly not disabled’.
“I looked straight at her and said ‘well actually my daughter is, but thank you for your concern’ and then she actually said ‘well she doesn’t look disabled’.
“Her husband, bless him, looked like he could have died a thousand deaths.”
The Hertfordshire Mercury reports that the incident happened in the Jackson Square Car Park in Bishop's Stortford on Saturday April 21.
Lily, who turns five in July, only began speaking nine months ago and has to attend around ten medical appointments a month for a number of health conditions.
The youngster has Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, postural tachycardia syndrome - a heart condition - and severe OCD, as well as autism. She suffers from a range of symptoms including seizures, blackouts, social anxiety and swelling of her joints.
She also has a gastrointestinal condition which means she still has to wear nappies.
However, her doting mum says she looks like a “typical five-year-old” most of the time, which has often led to them being on the receiving end of “judgemental” looks and comments when out in public, as well as confrontations over parking.
Hannah, from Takeley in Essex, said: “I’ve had it happen regularly, and it’s always in Stortford. I never get it anywhere else.
“There has been a couple of occasions where Lily has got upset before when she’s been aware there has been some kind of confrontation.
“Because she isn’t in a wheelchair people question it. They don’t even look to see if I’ve got a blue badge, they are just looking at me, looking for my disability.
“People judge and they shouldn’t. You don’t know what is going on in someone else’s life or what kind of day they have had.
“If we are in a disabled bay just trust us. It’s not your job to check.”
After returning home following the latest confrontation – which she describes as feeling like "a punch in the gut" – Hannah posted a moving post on Facebook in the hope that it would encourage people to think twice before making similar comments to others.
She wrote: “I am fortunate enough to be a healthy, happy 24-year-old mummy to two very individual and beautiful children.
“My son is an energetic, cheeky, intelligent two-year-old and my daughter is the kindest, most gentle, endearing little girl.
“Age is just a number though – she may nearly be five, she may be tall but that doesn’t mean you can compare her to others.
“Lying in bed, fearful of the future has become the norm to me. Every day is a worry, every day is a challenge and every day I fear what diagnosis will come next.”
Being a “special needs mum” is a challenge, she told her Facebook friends, and a commitment to a life that “you wouldn’t choose for your child”.
However, although Hannah said even though she wishes she could make her daughter’s life easier, she and other “determined” and “powerful” mothers of special needs children “were given the gift of these children because we have what it takes to be their mummies”.
She continued: “However much you wouldn’t change them for the world, because they’re perfect, and they’re clever and they’re gorgeous and they’re yours, you would in fact make their lives easier in a heartbeat.
“You would want to give them the freedom to run around like a child their age should be, you would want to give them the words to give you back chat when you ask them to do something they don’t want to do.
“You would give them the ability to use the toilet by themselves, to put their own socks on in the morning or to ride a scooter down the road without pain.
“Special needs mums have this power (...) to be their strength when they need us, to give them space when they simply can’t cope with the world around them, to give them and show them as much love as humanly possible whilst they push you away, they hit you, they slap you and they cry for you all at the same time.
“So the next time someone questions your parenting, questions a diagnosis or why you're parking in a disabled space, remember – you shouldn’t need to justify yourself to anyone.”
The post elicited a strong response from fellow parents, some of whom Hannah says have been in touch to share their own experiences.
She continued: “It’s really frustrating as a parent of a child who is disabled but not visibly.
“You’re sort of stuck in a quandary where you’re glad your child isn’t in a wheelchair but in a way it would almost be easier if they were.
“I’ve had emails from parents of children with autism who’ve said they’ve had comments about bad parenting when their children are screaming in public or won’t get off the floor.
“It’s definitely struck a chord. Hopefully it will help show people what is behind the scenes.”
Mum's heartbreaking message to the woman who tried to shame her for using disabled parking space Mum's heartbreaking message to the woman who tried to shame her for using disabled parking space Reviewed by Your Destination on May 03, 2018 Rating: 5

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